Change is the result of 4Cs + FAA.

4Cs + FAA = Change. To create true, sustained change in your life you need: Courage, Competency, Compassion, Commitment + Focused Attentioned Action.

Courage: Take a stand for or against something that you want to be different - whether it's losing weight, being a nicer person, being a stronger leader. These all require you to think about yourself differently, do things differently and have a different experience of yourself and yourself in relationship to others and the world around you.

Competency: Have or acquire the problem solving tools or skills you need to make the change. If you don't have them, acquire them or solicit someone else's expertise.

Compassion: Exercise it with, and for yourself when you come up less than successful. If you are lucky, it will happen that you will not succeed on the first or twentieth time. This is a test of your commitment to your goal and an ingredient that strengthens you and teaches other lessons yet to be revealed. Feel with, be with your emotions in this process or you will marginalize your results.  When trying to change, you will have emotions! They give you information about what is happening and what might need to be adjusted.

Commitment: You are tested to stick with it, not matter what! Get the resources or supports you need to bolster this, if you need to.You can have the rest, but if you don't have FAA, you won't create change. Period.

Focused: Stay on it! Minimize distractions. Put on blinders, if you need to.

Attention: Pay attention to what you are doing. Pay attention to what others say or how they receive what you are doing.

Action: No change happens without actually doing something different. When you act, your thinking or perception can change also. This reinforces your positive, focused attention.m